Thoughts on re-evaluating life purpose

A place of peace

I’ve been thinking, I mean really thinking… thinking about myself, my life, what I have to offer and what I have to give.  On my last post I was told that I had no clear vision, I both agree and disagree.  Actually God gave me my vision this year, something very simple yet so deeply profound to me that it almost takes my breath away.  It’s not just a vision for me but a vision for all of God’s children which is about entering into His Peaceful rest (Shabbat Shalom).

A place of peace

God has created a place of rest and peace for us all

I am taken back to the recent article that I wrote on being On-Purpose, and I ask myself am I being ‘On-purpose’ with my moments of being?  I have come to a few realisations:

  1. Just because I can, it doesn’t mean I should – I feel best when I’m busy, so I try to make myself busy with ‘good things’ such as trying to help others.  But in my busyness I take myself out of my God-given purpose, I use my time the way that I think it should be used and not the way in which God wants me to use it – bad move.
  2. I’ve been spreading myself too thinly – it’s hard to be everything to everyone and if I’m honest with myself and God that’s what I’ve been trying to do.  I do thank Paula Millar for making me think as she has put it, it has been affective in doing that – so if you want someone who will challange you and make you think try Paula.  I am not a fountain of knowledge, the only knowledge I have is the knowledge that God has given me to fulfill my calling and destiny.  My energy is best served focusing on the tasks that are most relevant to this.
  3. It’s OK to have times of stillness and quietness – notice how I say stillness and quietness.  For those of you who know me from my other blog, you know that God has been taking me through a lot of healing body, soul and spirit.  Everyday I learn new areas that God wants to make whole. He is making me more self-aware and although a very painful process absolutely necessary for the work He has called me to do which is to help those who are broken enter into His Shabbat Shalom.  Ironically, I like to be busy because it keeps my mind from uncovering old wounds, like a defense mechanism I guess but it is counter-productive.  My challange is to allow myself to rest (be still and be quiet) so that not only can the ground that I will work be prepared but so that I will be too.  Stillness is about not moving, not pushing, not working and not striving and quietness is about gentleness, softness and a decreased pace in our work.  I have a recent testimony on this that I would like to share, go to the end for the link.
  4. It’s OK to change and adapt – I think most people have a fear of change, it makes us uncomfortable because we feel lost at sea and it makes others feel uncomfrtable because it makes us more unpredictable in their eyes.  But actually change and adapting to change is necessary, because we may need to alter our footsteps to find and come once more on the path that  God has set out for us and as we grow and walk more in God’s wisdom this will inevitably cause more change in and around us.  Staying the same due to fear and complacency is not safer it is dangerous, so godly change is good – read my previous post on godly change.

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How to build mutually beneficial Linkedin connections (Part 3)

mutuslly beneficial relationships

When I sat back and thought about what to write in this blog post it crossed my mind that cyber-relationships are very similar to face to face ones in that we go through a 3 stage process of actively seeking potential connections,  learning how to make ourselves attractive in their eyes so that they desire to connect with us and lastly putting in the work to maintain the relationship once we have connected with them.  So far in this short series on building mutually beneficial online connections via Linkedin and other social networking platforms, we have looked at the first two stages how to find mutually beneficial connections and how to attract them, last but not least this post aims to focus on how we can build and maintain these relationships once we connect with potential others. Continue reading

Tips and tools for promoting your christian blog or website (part 1): The Advantage of Tribes

This is a series of posts that will specifically look at ways for Christian business owners and bloggers to promote and grow on and offline.  The first in this series is a guest post by Pastor Sherry on a form of advertising called Tribe Syndication Association or TSA.  As a member of a tribe, Pastor Sherry is in a strategic position to share more about Tribe Syndication and how Believers can use the theory behind it to grow.

The Advantage of Tribes
By Pastor Sherry

God is a God of variety!  We can see that in all His created works – the birds, the flowers, the stars, and in each human.  He works with each person in our individually journey, and leads us from where we are to where He wants us to be.

His purpose for us is not only to be who He created us to be, but to also share that creation with others.  As He leads us we learn of Him, and can share those lessons with others.  We’re not all on the “same page.”  We are not learning the same lessons at the same time, nor in the same way.  But the way God leads each of us can be beneficial to others of His children.  We may be sharing on the same topic, but each of us will share it differently, according to our own experience and expertise.  Someone may resonate with our message when they cannot another’s.  That makes each of our voices valuable in God’s kingdom.

As children of God who blog, we each have something to say for Him that can touch the hearts of others.  And in this world of internet and blogging, it’s easy to give to others the message God has given us.  Write it and click “upload/publish” – that’s all we need to do!

But that very ease creates a glut of online information.  There is soooo much “out there,” that those who need to hear God’s message through us may never find our site. Continue reading

Are you switched on to yourself?

Have you ever been really excited to go to a talk or a conference about a particular topic, only to get there and find out that the speakers talk about everything else other than what was expected? How did that make you feel? Frustrated, angry, annoyed, like you wasted your time in attending in the first place? Probably all of the above right? But how do you feel when you go to a meeting, conference, event and the speakers you hear are everything that you expected plus a cherry on top? Elated, surprised, invigorated, motivated, encouraged, charged up? Wow, what a contrasting set of emotions with the only difference being that the first set of speakers were ‘off-point’ whilst the second ‘on-point’.

Now think about yourself, your life, your work and ask yourself this question: “am I on or off-point?” How can we even tell whether we are or not? Difficult questions I know but if we imagine ourselves as a speaker or even better still the whole event, what type of lasting impression do we leave on ourselves, on others, on God? Are we wasting valuable time, do we feel frustrated and let down by ourselves our lives or do we feel invigorated and motivated to do and give more?

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How to build mutually beneficial Linkedin connections (Part 2)

This post is the second in a series of posts looking into how we can create mutually beneficial Linkedin relationships, although the focus is on Linkedin, many of these principles can be applied to any social networking site.  To read the first post in the series concerning the importance of groups please click on this link How to build mutually beneficial Linkedin connections (Part 1).

The psychology of relationships

When we talk about relationships we need to be aware that people do not enter into relationships blindly, there is always a reason behind every interaction whether physical or virtual.  By understanding the psychology of relationships we become more aware of the whys and hows of forming relationships that work for all parties.  Think about these questions:

  1. what makes you decide to ‘connect’ with someone online?
  2. what makes you decide to accept a person’s request to connect?

By careful examination of what your thought processes when connecting online you will be much closer to understanding what other people expect from you when deciding to connect with you.

One of the topics I taught as a psychology teacher was the the psychology of relationships, there are several theories to explain why people form relationships both off and online. Continue reading

Mentoring revisited: Peer mentoring, learning and support

This week I want to revisit the concept of mentoring on the back of the interest sparked by my previous mentoring post ‘Seeking Mentor: must be anointed!‘ and examine its importance as a tool to enhance growth in work and life.  As a learning and development professional, I have seen and used mentoring in a number of ways and know first hand how effective it is when implemented correctly and used wisely.  The chances are that we have all experienced mentoring at some point in our life, in our home, school, workplace or fellowship, mentoring works because it is personal.

What is a mentoring?

Mentoring is a form of informal support which is generally based on a more experienced, skilled or knowledgeable individual (Mentor) offering support, advice and guidance to someone who needs their assistance (Mentee).  Mentoring is not goal-focused but tends to be more person-centered, helping the mentee progress in a particular aspect of their life in a number of ways such as:

  • Facilitator
  • Sounding Board
  • Coach
  • Role model
  • Confidant
  • Motivator
  • Challenger
  • Expert

The value of mentoring has become such an effective tool for success that it has moved out of its normal home of state education and can be now found in higher education institutions and large corporations, yet even though the world has seen and is tapping into the benefits of mentoring the body of Christ still chooses to struggle to progress alone! Continue reading