How to build mutually beneficial Linkedin connections (Part 1)

I have decided to write a series on how I feel we can get the most out of LinkedIn in relation to building mutually beneficial connections, the focus is on 3 key words: mutual, beneficial and connections.  Most of the time we focus on the last two words but forget the importance of the first, I sincerely believe that when we focus on building mutually beneficial connections amazing things can happen for all those concerned.

I have tried a number of online networking groups, I did Ecademy for a bit and even tried Ning, but neither of these were for me so it was a happy day when I finally stumbled upon LinkedInSo, what’s so great about LinkedIn?

  1. It’s totally business/profession minded – so it attracts serious people who want to connect with other serious people.
  2. you are able to create an online CV through your profile area – which is great for people finding you or the services you offer(try typing your name into Google and the chances are your LinkedIn profile will show up) but it gives you a chance to learn about potential contacts before deciding to connect.
  3. You have the opportunity to join groups based on your areas of interest and expertise which is beneficial not just for spotlighting how wonderful you are but also for learning and becoming more equipped.
  4. last but definitely not least it’s free to create a basic profile and every now and again LinkedIn give away free trials offers, so you can see whether their premium services are really as beneficial as they claim before signing on the dotted line.

So if you don’t have a LinkedIn account, just a take a short trip over to the site and register for free.

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Who do they say You are?

Earlier on in the year I had the pleasure of attending a Christian women’s event hosted by CWIBUK, the focus of the event was to look at key lessons that had helped our business/ministry to change and grow in the previous year and what steps we would take in the new year to achieve our goals.  There were 3 speakers who all shared there lessons from 2011:  Jessica Mead, Sherlyn Ramsey and Jacqueline Peart, even though they were three very different women, sharing different lessons I couldn’t help but see the underlying current in each of the lessons shared.  Today, I want to focus on one of the lessons that spoke to me the most, that given by Jessica Mead and explain it in my own words based on my experience of aiming to do things God’s way.

I have noticed that people mostly operate under the principle of self-interest and self-service, this is true even within Christian circles.  I don’t believe it’s so much that people want to act in that way, most of the time we know our actions are wrong but we feel compelled to do so because we feel that we have no other choice.  Although most Christians talk the good talk, it is rare to find people whose words and actions marry well together.

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Guest Post: 9 Tips for creating a successful web presence

What every website must have to be successful by Bess Obarotimi

If you reading this it’s likely you want to increase the success of your site.  Before you continue reading the main points, pause for a moment and consider the exact reason you have a website in the first place.

More than likely it’s because you want to increase exposure of your products or services.  Most importantly you will want to drive sales.  Of course, that’s obvious.  But being sure of this will give the following points much more clarity as to their importance.

1. Call To Action
Having a website that tells the world what you do is not enough.  You need to tell the world what you want them to do.  On your home page at the very least, you should have a call to action.  Don’t make your visitors guess what you want them to do, tell them.  Call to actions include:

  • Start your job search now.
  • Click here to Sign Up for our newsletter.
  • Join our Community Today.
  • Buy our Product.
  • Download the ebook below.

Simple, punchy and effective.

2. Clear Navigation System
Your visitors should be able to easily find your navigation bar.  It must be simple and the headings must group the main themes of your site together.  It should allow your visitors to come back to the normal order of information once they have moved away from it whilst searching your site. Continue reading

Seeking Mentor, must be anointed!

When I first started this blog in February, I started it with the goal to encourage those who wanted to start in Ministry or serve God to do so God’s way and not their own or man’s way.  I have seen that it’s not enough to have a goal, a vision or even a passion, what is most crucial is that we have a God-given anointing to do that particular work.   After I posted my first post On when to start your ministry on Linkedin, I received a response that read along the following lines ...”not until you have sat under a leadership figure”.   I felt so aggravated when I read this because I felt that

  • this individual had no idea where I was coming from and what I was trying to say and I even wondered whether he had read the blog post or not and
  • I felt that you don’t need any other leadership figure apart from Holy Spirit.

But even as I brushed this comment underneath my proverbial carpet, it must have been churning around somewhere in the depths of my mind before working itself into my spirit because I suddenly began to let this thought slowly see daylight again, it wasn’t until I re-blogged the following post that I sat down and examined what the Holy Spirit was saying to me.

Question: do you need to have someone with more experience supporting you in your ministry?

Answer: Yes, I really think that you do.

However, I don’t think it’s as simple as going to your local church or Pastor and asking to follow him/her around like a lapdog.  I think there is a big difference between becoming a replica or a shadow of someone else to becoming the person that God wants You to be.

Why do I think that we should seek support in our ministry?

First and foremost I think it’s biblical, no matter how anointed we feel we are there is always a training ground where God brings people into our life that will support and minister to us.  If I think back to Saul and David even though they were both anointed God gave them Samuel, even Samuel had to be ‘under’ the tutelage of Eli.  Elisha had Elijah to tutor him, the disciples had Yeshua and Yeshua then commanded them to go out and make even more disciples.  I believe that these discipleship chains are purposeful physically as they give us hands on knowledge and experience but also spiritually as the wisdom and the anointing of that individual is in a sense ‘passed down’ to their mentee, I believe that this acts as a training ground so that each generation is spiritually stronger than the last.

Elijah mentored Elisha
Elijah mentored Elisha

Secondly, it is a sign of humility and a desire to learn as much as you possibly can so that you will be as effective as you can possibly be in your ministry.  If we feel that we know everything that we need to then we are limiting ourselves and as such we are limiting how God is able to use us, we need to accept that we don’t know everything and that there is still so much more that we could learn.  The Bible gives us a great example of this in Gehazi Elisha’s servant (mentee), who because of his own pride and assurance of his own knowledge acted in his own self-will which resulted in him suffering leprosy.  This is a marked contrast from Elisha, who lovingly followed and learnt from Elijah and was given a double anointing of his spirit.

Thirdly, a good mentor will have more experience and knowledge than you have therefore, they should be seen as an invaluable resource of wisdom (application of knowledge to everyday situations).

Proverbs 19: 20 – Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days.

Proverbs 12: 15 –  The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkens unto counsel is wise.

Proverbs 13: 10 – Only by pride comes strife: but with the well advised is wisdom.

What should we expect from a good mentor?

I think the most important thing we should look for in a mentor is anointing, that individual MUST BE a born-again Child of God, not simply by what they say but by their fruits.  It doesn’t matter if that person holds a Phd in Divinity or Theology, if they think that they are the world’s best theologian, philosopher or teacher what matters most is that they have been affirmed and chosen by God if God chose a humble shepherd to be King over Israel and Yeshua chose fisherman and tax collectors, why should we look at the outwards signs of righteousness?  We should ask God to let us see how He sees and not the other way around.

Secondly, your mentor should have a similar anointing to you they should be a kindred-spirit.  God makes us all unique but even in our uniqueness there are similarities, for example in my walk I have come across many people who have a calling to help those who are sick in some way, God has given us a similar spirit to reach those who are broken or hurt, we have a different spirit  to those who have been called to become missionaries etc.  Each part of the body of Messiah has a different work to perform and as such requires a different anointing to perform it, we can not expect an arm to understand how the leg works or any eye to be the same as a hand, therefore we must ask God to lead us to someone who will help us to grow in our area of anointing.  This does not mean that we can’t take support from any others but that we should be aware that their perspective and their focus is different but complimentary to our own.

Thirdly, your mentor has to be called into mentoring at that time; they should feel a strong desire or attraction to mentor and as such they will be looking for that special someone to pass on their knowledge to.  You will find that some people have knowledge that they just don’t want to share, don’t look to these people to mentor you as they will always be holding something back their interest is to keep you always behind them.  You want to find someone who will help you and support you in finding your own unique calling, and as such this will not affect your mentor at all unless you are a dubious person who just wants to steal your mentor’s ideas and use them for your own.  However, as mentioned previously we have the example of Gehazie to illustrate how God repays such people.

The attitude of a good mentor can be found in the pages of God’s word:

2 Timothy 2: 2 – And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.

1 Peter 5: 1-5 – So I exhort the elders among you, as a fellow elder and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, as well as a partaker in the glory that is going to be revealed: shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight, not under compulsion, but willingly, as God would have you; not for shameful gain, but eagerly; not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock. And when the chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory. Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

1 Thessalonians 2: 8 – So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.

Fourthly, I don’t believe that you should ‘pay’ your mentor  but this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t repay them in some way.  You’re mentor may be a ‘coach’, but they should not be coaching you, the relationship between a mentor and a mentee is totally different and as such is not something that you should buy.  A mentor can still be a paid coach to others, whilst in a sense being drawn into a unique relationship with you because this relationship is more of a discipleship or apprenticeship, it is a divine conventional relationship where God is intimately placing you together to create something beautiful.  If this person you approach requires payment, then the chances are that this person isn’t the right person for you but you may still wish for them to coach you.

Proverbs 15:31-33 (KJV)

The ear that heareth the reproof of life abideth among the wise.  He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding.  The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility.

In conclusion, I think as those interested in ministry we should begin to ask God to lead us to our mentor.  If you have already had a biblical  mentoring experience maybe you are finding that God is calling you to find your own mentee.  I have been thinking about my own mentor, wherever they are thinking about all the things that I will learn and be able to use to bless others, maybe they are even now longingly searching for someone to pass down their own knowledge and wisdom to, but I know in due time God will lead me to them.

Have you received mentoring, how has it benefited you?  Or maybe you are a mentor, what one lesson could you pass down?

Other posts you might enjoy

Elisha or Ahab?

Disciples in Apprenticeship

On biblical mentoring

useful resources on mentoring

Biblical mentoring (pdf)

Do you have a website?

This will be short and sweet, I am meeting up with a few Christian ladies who I met over Linkedin to critically analyse our websites.  The idea behind this is to get another perspective on the strengths and weaknesses of our website from an end user perspective and provide feedback to help us improve our user’s experience.

If you have a Kingdom business or a ministry website and would like to join us, there are some places left on the 11th  and 16th.

Here is the original post I sent out via Linkedin

I recently bumped into an old acquaintance who specialised in media advertising, I showed her my website (Shalom Candles) and she said that she loved the product but that the website wasn’t working effectively to attract and motivate my target audience to purchase anything. She gave me a few hints and tips, which I have to be honest felt like daggers to my heart but when I sat back and tried to be objective I could see the sense behind a lot of what she said.

A lot of the time God gives us a great idea and we put it out there and wait for people to find us, and they do, but the trickles are not enough.  Is there anything we can do whilst waiting for God to bring people our way?

I think there is, I put a recent discussion up in this group asking people to analyse my website, the one response I received back has helped me so much.  I am now more able to understand what my potential audience are seeing when they visit my site and this makes me more informed so I can make the right changes to make their visit more relevant and enjoyable for them.

My proposal
For all the people that want to join in the focus/active-learning group, I propose that we start with the task of analysing each others websites. I have downloaded Oovoo which I am told is much better than Skype (audio and visual calls), so how about this:

We focus on analysing the strengths and weaknesses of our sites and give points for improvements.

If you are interested in this, please send me your name, email address and website details by private reply, also please let me know who your target audience is. I will then pass on details of three different websites for you to analyse from those which have been sent to me. I hope to get enough responses for us to each have views from three different people. We can meet after the Holy week celebrations are complete (probably 11th or 16th of April) over Oovoo, currently I can conference with 11 other people but this will go down to 5 at the end of April (special offer). You can download Oovoo for free, when you have downloaded and installed the software please let me know and I’ll send you a friend request.

Please also let me know which date and time you prefer and your time-zone so I can find a day and time that suits us all.

Thanks so much, I know that this comment was a bit long and just in case I will send a private message to everyone who has shown interest previously.

Have a blessed day 🙂